Let's Talk About Divorce

Divorce can be an overwhelming experience. Navigating through the process of separation or divorce is especially challenging when a child or children are involved. If you are struggling with how to share the news with your family, consider consulting a licensed therapist. They can guide you on how much information is appropriate to share with your child based on their age and maturity. If possible, present the information of the divorce as a united front. 

Children may go through a wide range of emotions including sadness, anger, fear, and confusion. It’s important to give your child time to process the news and their emotions. Assure them that these feelings are valid and normal. Everyone handles divorce in different ways.  Try to give your child or teen space, but check in on their well-being on a regular basis. Here are a few additional tips for divorcing parents: 

• Be intentional about spending quality time with your child
• Encourage your child to talk to you about how they are feeling
• Don’t involve your children in adult conflict
• Maintain a routine when possible 
• Don’t use your child as a messenger.  Communicate directly with the other parent regarding schedules, school information, etc.
• Resist asking your child what is happening at the other household
• Model self-care

Working through your emotions during and after the divorce is vital. Remember that grieving takes time, so don’t rush the healing process. Although every situation is different and not all children require counseling, a licensed therapist can provide support and help the entire family cope during this difficult time.

If your family is going through a separation or divorce, Rise Counseling and Diagnostics is here to help. Contact one of our mental health professionals to Get Started.

References: psychologytoday.com, divorcenet.com, mhanational.org